Thursday, August 28, 2008

3 days to go...

39 and a half weeks

So, my due date is looming near and yet there isn't a whole lot that tells me Grace is on her way. Went to the midwife yesterday and she checked and said that I'm 1cm and about 60% effaced (which is progress from last week) but at the same time it's not like I'm in labor. But, that's okay. I've really wanted a September baby ever since I found out I was pregnant. So, I'm okay right now.
Something I've been meaning to write about is a couple of things that I just don't "get." The first is the fact that total strangers (grocery store clerks, nail salon tech's, cleaning ladies) feel obligated to tell me that I "look small." Meaning, they don't think my baby is big enough to possibly be born on Monday and with a tone that questions if a baby that small could be healthy. Just as it would be incredibly rude to tell a very pregnant (hormonal) woman that she is "huge" it is just as rude to say the opposite. To think that the size of one's baby has anything to do with the person carrying it is ridiculous. Meaning that I can't control her size. She is what she is; Maddie was small too and perfectly healthy. I JUST MAKE SMALL BABY GIRLS! At least that's what I feel like saying. But instead, I try to be cordial and smile, but now I'm sick of it and I'm determined to come up with a better comeback for these sorts of comments, but I'm sure that by the time I come up with one, Grace will be here! Making small baby girls brings me to my second point that I don't "get." Why is it that whenever someone (anyone) asks me if I'm having a boy or girl, and I reply "another girl :)" (I say it with a smile-to show them that I'm happy about having another girl) they give me a look and then say something along the lines of "you'll get a boy next time," or "gotta tell Gabe to keep trying." NO. We don't want to "try." We are pretty (90%) sure that we are done having babies and we are fine; scratch that, we are THRILLED to be having 2 girls. Sisters. That's what I've always wanted; is to have girls because I know the importance of a sister. And, no offense to boys, but why are they deemed such a prized possession? I mean, we're not in China and we're not royalty looking for an heir to the throne. So, I just want to say, for the record, that we are ecstatic about having another girl. Another total individual to love and know. Now, if we could just meet her...

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Just for the record, I'm also thrilled with my girls (and my son). God blesses us as he sees fit!

The rest of it is just people talking...

dAd

Laura said...

You look so great Sarah! (Seriously I hope to look like you in 7 months) Why would people say anything? That makes me mad too.

You should see the reactions of some of my customers here in the tasting room when I tell them I'm pregnant. (and I don't even offer to tell them unless they ask: why am I not tasting the wines, etc. and I have to explain.)

I get, "but your not showing" to "how can you work here and not drink wine", etc. It's a perception that people have of what you should be doing/looking like while pregnant.

We don't mind what we have as long as he/she is healthy... I've had a dream I was having a boy, then twins and then last night I had a kitten. (So I'll def have a girl now!) lol

Anyway it's great to see you looking so good. I can't wait to hear when you actually have Grace!

SARAH said...

Thanks Dad! It's nice to see you visit the blog :) I'm trying to block out the "noise" of other people all the time! Laura, thank you for the compliment. Early in this pregnancy, I dreamt I had my baby and she was a little pig! It was really upsetting (although my mom thought it was hilarious). It will be great to find out what you're having in a couple of months. I'm so excited for you and Jason and I think about you all the time. That time in early pregnancy is so hard because you aren't showing. It's sort of like walking around with a secret that only you know about :)

Patrice said...

I think people think you look small because you just gained the necessary baby tummy weight, and didnt put on extra pounds everywhere else! So you should just tell people that you are a perfect weight, and to mind their own buisness!
Also, it is so great that Maddie will have a sister, b/c as all of us with sisters know, they usually become your bestfriend!

Anonymous said...

I will take the sister thing as a compliment. I know Grace will be as luck to have Maddie as I am to have you.
Love you and your beautiful girls!
-Elisabeth

SARAH said...

Thanks for the comment and compliment Patrice! You said that yesterday, but I figured you were saying what a sister-in-law is "supposed" to say :) Sisters do have a way of becomming your best friend; I totally agree. Lizzy, your welcome for the compliment. You know that I couldn't live without you. Plus, who would I live with when I'm 90 ;) Love you.